6 lessons everyone needs to learn while being single

Being single is tough, especially for those who love to be in a relationship. But, most ironic part is that even  that relationship is nothing but full of drama and loads of problems, it is better to go off the relation right now.

If you already decided to stay single, you will find the following lessons helpful.

Love yourself and love being yourself  

It is a common belief that finding someone to love and to be loved completes you. But it is a knotty puzzle. You might think that all your problems will be vanished when you are in a relationship. The truth is that nobody can love you as you love yourself. A relationship can never fill your emptiness. The true love comes when both of persons love themselves first and share their love with each other. Just go out and treat yourself with a nice dinner. Request a table for you and enjoy the food you like most. If you feel uncomfortable, do it again till you are comfortable.

Find out the things to lift you up

Think of something which you love to enjoy,  but could not do when you had been in a relationship. In toxic relationship, we miss a lot of things that we used to enjoy. Find songs that really lift your mood. Try more them. Find new and involve in them.

Stop wishing what you could have been

It is easy to think what could have been, especially those good things. You may go to some happy place in your imagination. You may easily love to believe that if you had been in love,  the things might have been different.

But ask yourself again, is this really help to make you happy. Probably not. It is very easy to think of the ideal situation, but when we were in the past, it deprived all our happiness.

Stop idealizing your “Ex”   

We tend to connect some good memories with our “Ex” during our loneliness. The hard truth is that the person with whom you were in relation is not in your relationship anymore. The person is “Ex” now.

Try to be grateful for the person you taught to learn how to cope with the adversities.

Feel genuinely happy for the people in the relationship

It is human to feel jealous of those in a relationship. But,  next time you feel like this, stop your feeling. One of the best ways to get over the feelings is to tell them verbally how much you are happy now. They will be happy to hear it and it will bounce back to you.

Go out and meet people whom you could relate

There are lots of ways to find and meet people of  your choice. Join any group and meet other singles like you. Go and have a light drink with them. May be it is in some of the restaurant or in any nightclub.

Embrace the time when you are alone. It is much better to be happier than being miserable.  

5 Office-friendly yoga poses you need to know

Even after knowing the benefit of yoga, we hardly can manage time to practice yoga for holistic healing. But now, after reading it, you can’t escape from doing yoga at your office. As described in this post, you can receive the same benefits of yoga even in your office sitting at your desk.

Here are five office friendly yogas that bring wellness to your mind and body:

1. Chair Cat Cow elongation

This pose improves the position and stability. It strengthens your spine and neck as well. In addition, it reduces the back pain.

How to do: 

·        Sit on a chair with stretching the spine, keep both the feet on the floor.

·        Arch the back, push your belly forward.

·        Push your shoulders backwards. In this cow position, you need to inhale

·        Now exhale slowly by rounding your spine, bringing shoulder forward and look downwards.

·        Continue this moving between cow and cat taking 5 breathing each time.

2. Chair raising hand posture

This pose improves the posture, opens the shoulder and strengthens the core. It lowers the back pain and alleviate the risk of herniated  disk.

How to do:

·        Sit on a chair facing forwards with your feet flat in the floor

·        Inhale and raise your hands up.

·        Hold this position for a few breathes.

·        Exhale and sweep your hands downwards to your sides.

3. Chair eagle pose

It loosens your shoulder and wrists. It releases stiffness of the between the shoulder blades and strengthens your legs. It minimizes the chances of recurring strain injuries also.

How to do: 

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          Cross your left thigh over your right thigh, if possible, wrap your left foot all the way around your right calf.

·        Curve the elbows and get your palms forward till they touch.

·        Lift your elbows while dropping your shoulders away from the ears. Hold for 3-4 breaths. 

4. Chair Spinal Twist

It relieves back pain and stiffness. It unlocks the chest and boosts oxygen supply to your lungs. The hip joints are also relaxed by this pose.

  

How to do:

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       Sit sideways on a chair, facing your right.

·        Twist your torso towards the right, holding onto the back of the chair.

·        Extend the spine with every inhalation and entwine on every exhale for 5  breaths.

·        Move about your legs around to the left side and repeat the twist for your left side.

5. Seated Double Hamstring

This  stretching of the hamstrings and lowering the back, improves the circulation of the blood and relieves tightness of the legs. It reduces the risk for sciatica also.

How to do:

·        Sit near the edge of the chair and place your feet on the floor.

·        Place a towel around the ball of the feet.

·        Lengthen the back part and lift your sternum and lean forward from the hip crease.

·        Lean forward as you can with your back and knees straight.

Keep fit following the office friendly yogas even if you are busy with your work schedule.

10 empowering beliefs that lead us to succeed

Beliefs influence our thoughts and behaviors. The beliefs are of two types: empowering belief and limiting belief. Former enables us to flourishing life and the latter prevents us from achieving goals.

We have an excellent gift of the power of choice. It is this power that enables us to make a choice between what we want  and what we don’t not. Beliefs are not real, but thoughts only.  So we can change our thoughts, through the power of choice we can alter our thoughts anytime we wish for.

Don’t worry about if your beliefs are right or wrong,  just mind the results  if you need to pursue them. Though it needs some practice, but it depends how you deal with the problem.

You are the person who needs to decide whether you will lead or linger. Whether you are satisfied to stay where you are, or wish to go ahead depends upon you.

Here are the 10 empowering beliefs that a successful person accepts to lead:

1.     They are not afraid of what is in front of them, they only excited for  what is next for them.

2.     The successful people believe that they are responsible for what they are today. The process of making  of a person goes on till death.

3.      The successful man never minds the failure. They look for the results, if they don’t get what they expect, they explore what they need to do to change the effects.

4.     The successful person always wants to find a way to overcome. They face defeat, but  never defeated.

5.     The successful person finds fuels of thought from the vulnerability.

6.     The successful men believe that they can’t stop the future to come, nor they can rewind the past. They just press the button of the Present to learn the secret.  

7.     The successful man believes what they say and align their belief and values as well as their action.

8.     The achievers always think that they are in the process of journey which they never want to end.

9.     The successful people may commit mistakes, but never stop trying to be more perfect than before.

10.    The successful men dream big, and they strive for what is impossible but is worth striving for.

Choose one empowering belief and utter it thrice in front of a mirror. Every day, try to behave and act in the same way as expressed by the empowering words. Once you are committed, you will have no option but to experience a successful life.  

5 ways the clever people handle the toxic people

The compulsive liars, narcissists, manipulators, sociopaths, gossipers, and those devote himself in self-pitying in immoderate degree are just a few examples of toxic people. These people often apply divide and conquer tactic to manipulate the social life to fulfil their own needs. It is very urgent that we should get rid of these people. But never let these people dominate your life. They will create hindrance in your way that will ruin your life completely. Fortunately, there are a ways to get out of such people.

Ignoring

The toxic people most often try to attract the attention of others by behaving unusually. They become unnecessarily loud, overly acting out or talking over. A social circle should never evolve round a single person. Maintaining  cohesion  relies on everybody’s participation in gossiping, cutting jokes or just talking. The best way to avoid these people is to pay little attention to those people.

Never sharing secrets

Toxic people share secrets with people merely to get attracted and interesting to others. They gossip about people behind their back.  If you find somebody who are gossiping in such way that he seems to love you intensely, never trust him. They may break the promise and betray  any time. It causes friction among the people. It is the manipulated method gaining popularity.

Avoiding of manipulative people

The manipulative people mess up your life. They will manipulate your feelings to make you bound to act accordingly. These people constantly toy with your emotion.  So it is worth avoiding these people, else you will have the sensation that you got deceived. 

Not believing their stores

Toxic people take resort to lies to themselves.  They perform mental gymnastics to convince  themselves that their lies are really true. In reality, the lies are really hard to keep on.  Telling a true story is somewhat easier than keeping track of a bunch of lies. Today or tomorrow, the liars have to expose themselves.

Not getting involved in petty feuds and drama

Toxic people air their dirty laundry in public.  When an argument erupts, they want everybody to his side. It doesn’t  matter if you’re involved or not.  It matters a little, if the two people involved are unknown to you.  A toxic person doesn’t allow you to remain neutral.

Avoiding toxic people and refusing to rationalise their indifference is not only good for them, but will discontinue you from being draw into their miserable world of self-perpetuating failure.