Never misunderstood the introvert, they only think differently

Introverts are often misunderstood. Their way of thinking is different from the normal people. Not only that, they also act differently, even their outlook  is different in their course when interacted with people.

But there are a lot of misapprehension regarding the conception of be introverted.

First:

 Introverts are looked to be shy

The two words “shy” and “introvert” are not alike. The introverts are shy not for the people around. They just don’t like to share anything with the other people.

Second:

Introverts are without emotion

Introverts may be inexpressive to what you are saying, but that doesn’t mean that they are not interested in what you are saying. They like to manage their emotions about the people around.

Third:

Introverts scare to make eye to eye contact

Normally, the introverts don’t  make eye to eye contact like extroverts. The reason is that they feel it useless to take part in social norms.

Fourth:

All introverts are poor public speakers

Even if some of the introverts are naturally gifted public speaker,  some of them avoid speaking in big group of settings. Instead, they  spend more time in preparing for speeches and presentations.

Fifth:

 Introverts just prefer living alone

While it is true that introverts prefer to invigorate themselves staying in some quiet place and spending quiet time reading or reflecting, they also long for human communication and enjoy the company of others, of course they are choosy to pick friends.

Sixth:

Introverts over analyze facts

Introverts are the great analyzers. They  like to evaluate every situation and think about all the possible circumstances before plunge into decisions. Sometimes this can lead to failure, but the positive side of it is that it allows them to make a right decision with a coherent stream of thought.

Seventh:

Introverts avoid going out in public

This allegation is also not true. It is true that the introverts are not comfortable in crowded spaces, but they love to be in new places, interact with the new people, and like to perceive new things.

Eightieth:

Introverts are underachieving

As we are habituated to meet the personable, charismatic,extroverted leader, some people take for granted that introverts can’t be a good achievers like the extroverts. However, there are many introverts throughout the world who are  scientists, physicians,  artists, philosophers and writers. Achievement is not  connected to personality type.

Have you ever been misunderstood the introvert? Hopefully you will start to understand them very closely.

How to make someone nice to you even when he is irritated at you

Meeting angry person in our everyday life and activities is nothing uncommon. It could be your friends, parents, relatives and even your spouse. If you are the one who always expect people around as nice and gentle, you are sure to involve in an uncomfortable situation.

But,  how will you make the person nice who is angry with you, or how can you bring the situation under your control? 

Every situation you face is unique. So,  it is necessary to know how to approach an angry individual technically:

Follow the 4 steps to fix the situation:

Avoid retaliation: first step to face an angry person is not to retaliate and never attack back. Counter attack  makes the person angrier. Don’t cut them off even though you feel humiliated. Put your pride aside, and move on, though it might infuriate the person more than before.

Show your concern about the situation: Show the person your concern about the situation the individual is involved. Angry people often think that they are misunderstood. Take time to listen to them. It will dramatically change the situation. Depending on the situation you make query like:

§  Can you share your problem so that I can help you?

§  It is very much unusual that you feel in such a way.

§  This should not be happened to you, can I help you?

These few sentences can be enough to make the angry person talking to you and eventually their problems also removed with the combined efforts.

Make yourself human 

The best answer to the fury of angry man is to be more polite and make yourself more human. Tell them after the fury is passed on about your feelings by using a few words like confused, scared, petrified or anxious. Also, let them realize that you have no intention to harm them using the words.  

Lighten the Mood by telling jokes etc.

The techniques need to be applied very carefully as the person who lacks generosity can often be overcome by this mood lightening technique. 

Consider flashing  a smile, telling a joke, or adding outlook to something are not so big, but it can produce a great result. What‘s  important to know is when and how much mood lightening jokes are right. Knowing these simple things will take you far in life.

 Bottom line

In spite of all these things said above, it is also true in some cases that you may fail to control someone else’s emotion. Some angry people never relent even after your thousands of effort to make them comfortable. In that case, never allow them to ruin your day. Move and be a better person.

How to have a second brain to retain more information

Our life depends on the capability of regaining especially with the effort, from our  memory. In everyday life,  forgetting of car keys,  date of appointment, time of emergency meeting distress our lives.  In every incident of forgetting we are agonized and become crazy about finding out the solutions. But, it is unfortunate that we often take wrong ways to find the solution. How much information we can store is not the problem, rather it is the problem of retrievability that pushes us in mental anguish.

Memory failure:  the product of information overload

We live in the age of information where we have to take in multiple facts and figures, news and issues, etc. We have to compete with our peers and contemporaries to keep ourselves updated in every sphere of life.  It is a pool of information and when we try to remember everything, our mind is so full that it spill out many acquired things. Information burden is the up-to-date  plague and our memory world is tainted by this disease. Our memory is frequently victimized that leads to the issue of recalling. Finally, it leads to upsetting the social contacts.

There is a way out, of course

What’s the use of storing tons of information, if you can’t recall them in time of necessity? However, you can allow your memory some new.

Storing tons of information in your memory is worthless if you’re unable to recall the materials you need – at the time you need them. Luckily, there’s a way to give your physical memory some needful space for breathing.

Physical brain and digital brain

The storage space of the physical brain is limited, and it is sufficient to lead our everyday lives. But, already said above, our age is the age of information and our memory needs to stretch its storing space.

But, how? Well, you can shift some of the storing  and calling to mind  to the digital brain. However,  it doesn’t mean that you have to a bionic man. It means you will have to transform yourself into a productive version. It is called Digital Brain presented to you by online storage. You are already familiar with some of the tools. These are:

Airtable, Dropbox, Evernote, Google Drive and Pocket. These are the well-known software. Pocket, for instance, allows you to capture news, blogs or videos into pocketbook with a single click. You can retrieve and view all these whenever you like it.

Instead of taking all the information to your brain, move some information to the tool you prefer to use. This will enable you to:

·        Store as much information as wish

·        Organize and prioritize the stockpile

·        Make available all the information day in and day out

The addition of digital brain to your physical brain will make you highly productive and blessed with super-power memories.

How To Make Money by Self-Publishing Your Book

Publishing a book is one of the biggest undertaking not only for the writer and author, but also for journalists, artists, communicator or professionals. The self-publishing is one of interesting venture, though the expectation of huge return against your investment is rare. Yet it is an interesting venture.

Basic facts about the self publishing

The technology of the present century has made digital eBook printing and online book financially feasible and has made the online book retailing to its current form.

Self-publishing can give authors much greater earning potential than the traditional route on day one.  Self-published books never go out of print.

Self-publishing liberates an author from the publishing company which tells them to write allows them to write about what they like and what makes them tick.

How to make self publishing success?

Here is what should be considered as the top keys to have a self-publishing success:

·       Put your heart in the self publication. Put all your interest and passions in it till the success is attained.

·        Assure quality of your work to the readers and the prospective buyers.

·        Invest time and money to reach your goal.

·        Prepare marketing plan ahead on how and where to market           your book.

·        Hire experts or professionals who can help you in a definite way beyond your knowledge.

·        Promote your book. It is a great moment to see that your book has been able to gain name and fame in the market.

·        Move outside of your traditional comfort zone.

No matter the height of success you are waiting for, put all your effort in your project. If you don’t feel passionate about what you wish to get, your effort for publishing will fail to meet the expectation.

If you devote the amount of hours necessary for writing, and carefully investing your money and maximizing your effort, you will come out with a booming piece of literature.  

Social Media Promotion

The using of social media like Facebook, Twitter, Linkdin, Pinterest is very extremely effective to promote your book. Publish  multiple post that gives you insight about the book. All of these effort will help connect you with potential influencers  and will create buzz online .

What may, nothing will happen overnight. It will be visible gradually to others.

A few Body Language slip-up the Successful People Never Make

In our daily lives body language plays an important part, knowingly or unknowingly. With just a few body gestures we can reveal a lot of things. It may be meeting with the strangers, or can be a formal interactions with your boss or colleagues at your workplace.  For confident and successful people body language is the part of their apparel and make up. They never make a few mistakes  as they know it may affect their lives in a negative way. A few examples  are here:

They never avoid eye contact:

When you avoid looking eye to eye, it reveals that you want to hide something. It also reveals your low self confident. When you are in professional conversation with your coworker, maintaining eye contact is essential. It conveys the message that you are a man of strength and confidence. The handshake with loose grip is the indication of insincerity. There are person who shake hands by sandwiching  other’s hand. This is very much awkward. They are literally wishing to take the upper hand.

They never slouch

Slouching or bad posture is the warning sign of your lack of confidence. It is the clearest indication that you have a low energy level.  The curved back, shoulder pointing inward, crossed arms  and legs are all the indication of something of your low confidence. On the other hand, a straight back and shoulder maximizes your amount of confidence and power of assertions.

They never make weak handshake

Although handshake lasts for a few seconds, it leaves a great impressions. Firm handshake suggests self confidence and strong will power. On the other hand,  weak handshake  is the indication that you lack authority and power. So make sure that your handshake is always firm and strong.

They never expose exaggerated gestures

Exaggerated, or overjoyed gestures can be the indication that you are stretching the truth or you are chaotic. Communicate with controlled gestures that is the clear indication of your leadership and confidence. Showing palm of your hands during the interaction is the indications that you are very much open and have nothing to hide.

They never indulge in Fidgeting

The biting of nails, playing with your hair, tapping your fingers on the table are the examples of fidgeting that clearly shows that you are in anxiety.

They never refuse to smile when necessary

Smiling is the expression of confidence and energy, and also an openness. In the formal expressions it sets the mirror to your listeners to instruct them to smile back.